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A Quote To Change Your Life

A Quote To Change Your Life

A Quote To Change Your Life

A quote from Oprah Winfrey, “The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.”

This is my post for Week #3 of the #MusicTherapyBlogger Challenge hosted by Julie Palmieri at Serenade Designs. Thank you Julie for encouraging me to keep going with these posts.

What does this quote mean to me? It defines the decision that I made to become a music therapist. The adventure was direct. It was one decision to make a difference. Becoming a music therapist was an adventure. After working in dead-end and unsatisfying jobs in my 20’s, I decided to go to college to be a violinist. I thought being a violinist would be a glamorous, successful job, and it would have been. But, I was 27 years old, a parent of two babies, and wife. I had played the violin at church for 10 years on and off since high school, and I really didn’t have the chops to be a professional violinst. I had completed a clerical certificate program in 1996 at the community college. It was a good accomplishment, although it left my soul unsatisfied. On a daily basis, I came home crying. I desperately needed something meaningful in my work life.

When I began to take music classes at Augsburg College, I found music therapy through my violin instructor, Mary. She told me about music therapy, and I was sold. After my coursework, internship and my first position as music therapist in Minneapolis, I continued on to develop a position in Duluth, MN. This was my dream job! Hospice work is very meaningful. It is always an honor to be in the presence of someone in their last days, hours, or minutes of their life. Wonderful moments happen when facilitating families into a gathering that focuses on the patient, what’s important to him or her, and tying it all together with music. I had truly found my calling in music therapy. I went on to work in hospice care for 10 years.

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Since 2008, I’ve owned Access Music Therapy, llc. While working in hospice care, I had been requested by families in the community to provide music therapy for their children with developmental disabilities which was the beginning of my private practice. I never thought I’d be comfortable working with children, except that God had a different plan for me. Currently, my caseload is 80% children with varying challenges. The adventures I’ve had as a music therapist have been so amazing. Over a year ago I resigned from hospice care. I still love it and eventually hope to contract with a program. It’s been over a year now operating my private practice full-time as Access Music Therapy, llc. My future plan is to open a music therapy studio/clinic to increase the services in the Duluth and Superior communities. This is certainly an adventure that my heart was longing for from the beginning. I just needed to say “yes” when I heard the call

Saying Good-Bye

Saying Good-Bye

It’s “Show & Tell Tuesday!” I want to share a book with you that I think is so amazing for little kiddos going through the loss of a loved one.

Saying good-bye can be a very hard thing when a child has to say it to a loved one. Christine L. Thompson wrote a book titled, “Scarlet Says Good-Bye,” and it’s a book for children to process their thoughts and feelings about a loved one dying in hospice care. It provides a story and activities for children to do alone or with family. It helps the child to remember the person and the time spent.
The book can be purchased at Scarlet Says Good-bye
Scarlet Says Goodbye

This book can be used by therapists, hospice employees, and family members to initiate talking with a child about what they are thinking and feeling. It teaches children what hospice care is, how children can talk with the dying loved one, and a place in the book for the loved one to leave a written message to the child.
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As a music therapist, I love using “Scarlet Says Good-Bye,” by Christine L. Thompson because it includes many activities in the second half of the book that can be adapted and expanded upon in a music therapy session. I really like the activity that encourages the child to pretend he/she is a “reporter”. Christine offers questions that the child can ask the loved one. These pages are perfect for the music therapist to assist in developing these questions into songs with a child. For the child, developing their loved one’s answers into melodies can help him/her remember the moments and conversations with the loved one more easily. Songwriting the words into lyrics and melody can bring the “reporter’s” experience to a deeper level. In addition, a recording of the song can be a keepsake that could be treasured for years to come.
It’s just a great book! So many wonderful ways it can be used to bring about processing for a grieving child.
Thank you Christine for writing it, and signing my copy!!

Jody Tucker

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