Calvin & Hobbes ponders…
Many of you know that I work with some awesome children and young adults with special needs. I also work with hospice patients through Essentia St. Mary’s Hospice. I have dedicated this blog to sharing my observations, experiences, and suggestions with my readers. Over the years, I have witnessed a number of hospice deaths, attended, and performed for many funerals, including five of my family members. As a musician, it seemed natural to perform for some of those personal funerals, but I knew when it would be too difficult for me. I’ve worked in hospice care as a music therapist for nine years, and with that I’ve been involved in performing the music for many patient funerals and memorial services because of the connections made through music therapy sessions. Altogether, I’ve witnessed funerals that had much love and attention invested in them thus making them very meaningful, and others, not so much. There were times when a preacher didn’t even remember the deceased person’s name during the eulogy! Nobody wants that. Obviously, planning such an event takes a lot of preparation to make it meaningful and less burdensome on the family. For a many reasons, I am proposing that you think hard about planning ahead for your own funeral.
“When the time comes to die, make sure that all you have to do is die!” ~Jim Elliot”
The Journals of Jim Elliott
It’s never too early to plan and share your own end of life wishes with those you love. Preparing for your celebration of life allows others to make informed decisions. It gives you time to communicate your wishes to those who may be left with the responsibility of making decisions on your behalf. The funeral or memorial service alone is a huge undertaking. Would you want to leave the funeral planning to your family members who are in the midst of their sadness? (more…)